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Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Sis moms are for initiation I know, but what about someone you really look up to and want to have as a part of your family...
I would hate to have a sismom or big sis or whatever you call it that I did not get along with or mesh well with.
By the way this was an a directive from a higher authority if you catch my drift?!?
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Yes, I certainly catch your drift. The only thing that I can really tell you is that your sister-mother is your family. Your sister-daughter is your family. According to Ritual and tradition (at least how *I* was taught it), that is how your family is composed. Your sister-mother is the person you look up to.
I agree that matching women up right at the beginning of the new member period isn't the most ideal way to ensure great sis-mom/sis-dot relationships. Like I said before, in our chapter we sometimes got great match-ups, and sometimes not.
I myself was the product of a not-so-great match-up. Sometimes it was very lonely, but you compensate in other ways. For instance, the opportunity to take two Chapman Pearls under my wing has been an amazing experience for me. They are my family now. Albeit, it is an unusual way to create a family...but they are my family nevertheless.
While I wish things were different with my sister-mother, the lack of a super-close relationship with her hasn't scarred me for life.
Again, I'm not really sure what to tell you that will make you feel better. I wish I could make it better for you, but the Ritual is what it is. Short of having IHQ change it, I'm not sure what the other options are here.