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First off, is this your first major relationship? I have a feeling it is.
Usually an individual will have about 2, maybe 3, major realtionships before they get married. I don't know what your family life is like or how well you were raised...but I'd venture to guess that you had a good upbringing, based on our PM conversations.
Usually the parents do know whats best for their children. The older I grow, the more I find out how right my dad is on shit and how stupid my mom is at times. Granted, I love my mother very much and I am the apple of her eye.....but I don't know how she would have made it anywhere in this world without my dad. With that said, the mother is usually the one who reacts on emotion. What mothers feel in their heart usually affects their thought process. Hence, if she doesn't feel like he's a good guy....she's not going to like him. Also, there's probably a reason why she doesn't like him......a reason only experience can teach. Believe me, odds are your mother has been in this situation before and is trying to only help you.....despite what it may appear right now.
Now, with that all said.......I'd say go to your dad and talk to him. Ask him for his advice. See what his take on it is. He was a young lad once and odds are he knows a little more than you think. Men are just usually quiet on these types of situations, ones that involve their daughter and wife in conflict over another male. If it seems impossible to talk to your dad, just try it. Believe me, it will make his day to have his daughter come to him for advice. Anytime I want to butter up my mother or make her day, i just give her a kiss on the cheek and sit down next to her on the couch. Then I give her a big hug and ask her for her advice on some stupid situation. After that she's miss bibbidy boppidy boo for the rest of the day. There's something that happens to the parent of the opposite sex when their child does something like that. My guess is that it's something only a parent can feel. So, trust me.....if you come to your dad in that manner and then ask him for advice on that situation......you're gonna feel much better when you're done talking to him.
As for the boyfriend........He'll probaly refer to you as his girl for a LONG time. It takes a guy awhile to get over shit like that. We have thick skulls, but eventually it does get through. He might not always be right in the head afterwards.....but he will get over you, trust me. I'm over all but 1 of my exgirlfriends. She's the third one back, the one who was the best to me and the one who I treated the worst. January 17th was a yr since we broke up, she has since moved out of the state and back to Louisiana. She will be living in France for the summer, just to chill. This kind of stuff isn't something that just goes away and is easily forgotten. I still talk to that ex about 3 times a week, saw her in New Orleans recently. Anyhow.....the both of you will get over it. You'll be saved a lot of hardache in the end. And you'll win favor with your parents, which is a good thing. Smart people know this.
UF_Pike
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