[Sistermadly]

Originally posted by RedefinedDiva
YWhy would any minority want to be a part of orgs. that make fun of them?

Because one chapter, or the actions of a few members do not make the entire organization. Look at those renegade AKAs who were implicated in those hazing deaths a few months ago. I have AKAs in my family, and I love and respect their sisterhood. I know full well that what those alleged members did in no way reflects on the strength of AKA's legacy. What a few fools decided to do at a fraternity party doesn't reflect on the legacy of the entire organization.

I don't see a problem with what the family of this young man said. The problem is that everyone that is NOT a minority is quick to jump up and say how "racist" his family seems to be or what you would do if your child decided to "think outside of the box" (my selection of words). However, unless you have been/are a minority, you have NO earthly idea what it is like.

Well, I'm a minority, and I do think that the parents' decision was based on prejudice. All things being equal, what was the difference between this fraternity and the Alphas? Both are lifetime committments. Both are concerned with molding fine, upstanding young men. Okay, so the Alphas' mission is to serve the Black community -- who is to say that once this guy joined Phi Psi that he would stop serving the black community? I haven't stopped loving my people just because I also love Alpha Phi -- and if you think otherwise, then that, I'm afraid, is your issue.

Not every chapter of every NPC or NIC organization operates the same way. Not every chapter of every NPHC organization acts the same way -- and if you're in the NPHC, I'm sure you can vouch for chapters within your organization that do things a little differently than your own. To say to a guy -- a FAMILY member, no less - that you either join a black fraternity or none at all is the height of arrogance, and I'm really disappointed in his family for reacting that way.

If I were a parent, and my daughter decided to join Delta Sigma Theta instead of Alpha Phi when she went to college, I would be disappointed that she decided not to continue the legacy, but I would support her decision because I know that as a young adult, she made the best choice for her, and that I can't continue to dictate my daughter's life. I would support her no matter what she decided -- including paying her membership fees.

I don't know about IFC/NPC orgs., but NPHC membership is a lifelong commitment.

As someone who joined Alpha Phi long after her university days were over, I can tell you that joining Alpha Phi is a lifetime commitment. I've seen this old chestnut tossed around quite a bit on GC, and I for one, would love to see it put to rest.