I had a long and (I believe) thought-provoking answer to this thread.
Then I trashed it at the last minute.
I don't want to be called a racist for having a hard time understanding what looks very much like a double-standard that has no place in the 21st century. That's something that no minority person can understand.
I guess it's part of life that there's always going to be people stuck in a rut over race, one way or the other. Not very encouraging. Multiculturalism is a multi-way street: if one person/group/etc doesn't want to be involved, everyone suffers in the long run.
Adrienne (PNAM-2003)