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Originally posted by LeslieAGD
I feel like this is a separate topic, but I do have one comment. While I do feel that advisors and alums are incredibly important, I believe ADPiViolets is refering to those advisors/alums who try to live vicariously through the current members and refuse to give up control and let the collegians make decisions for themselves.
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I mean we have sooo many advisors that are like freaking Nazi's. I mean everything is a big deal and NO, they don't have another life. They are quite immature for people who are supposed to be old enough to know better. I was not talking about every advisor-they are extremely important and I've rarely met a successful chapter that doesn't have them. But honestly-when you graduate, it's not really all yours anymore. You have to relinquish some of that control. The new girls have their own ideas and stuff and don't have to do everything just like you do it.Just because it's always been that way doesn't mean that it has to be that way.
We made a rule that alumni have to be invited or they are not to be at -you name it function-including rush. Now we do invite most of them of course, but we are tired of intereference.
And while I am ranting: big southern universities that have the alumni do the cut list before any of those poor girls have a chance to go through rush. Pathetic. I do not want my alumni choosing who is my sister. I want to choose.If they are legacies great, if not great. I mean recs are great but who is gonna submit a shitty rec.? Even the nastiest person has someone who likes her and will write her a rec. You have to go buy what you think of them. Not someone else.
Alumni have a great place, but running the chapter is not it. The actives should be running it.
Anyhoo-way off topic-but Violets, I know how ya feel!