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Originally posted by James
Normally I am in accord with you but well . . . settling by any other name is still settling. And you have said to settle . . hence the prioritizing your needs.
But in the spirit of your post: Maybe a guy has a multiplicity of interests and talents and finds it hard to meet one woman to meet enough of those needs. So he goes elsewhere to get some of them filled.
If I am reading most of you ladies correctly, a guys best bet is to find a girl that will rock his entire existance in the bedroom. That way he can seek emotional and intellectual needs elsewhere and be much less tempted sleep with those girls.
However, its often a shared emotional understanding that leads to these long time affairs.
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Let me clarify a bit. What I was talking about was realizing that no one is PERFECT. Your logic would assume that there is someone who will be perfectly compatible with you. I might just be pessimisitc, but I don't think so. To me "SETTLING" is just being relieved to be in a relationship with someone, no matter their flaws or yours.
COMPROMISING is what I am talking about. And if it is done correctly, those less important areas where you might be incompatible will either be obsolete or nonexistant.
To me, if someone is not meeting your needs, why are you still with them? There is no gray area. If you feel unfulfilled, then it is YOUR fault for staying in the relationship when there is an option to leave.
For people that feel that they have to fulfill their mulitple needs with multiple people, I say grow up.