Oh, I definitely understand that there is a big difference between someone who's depledged on good terms and someone who's left on bad terms. I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to remain friends with someone who depledged and left the chapter in shambles, or was plotting character assassination against the sorority.
I was just a little peeved at the phrasing of the question. None of the situations the poster described were particularly negative, yet the question was about "defiling the bond" I have with my sisters. To me, its just patently ridiculous to think that (a) I would cast off a friend just because she wasn't a sister, and (b) that I am somehow insulting Alpha Gamma Delta by associating myself with a good person who--for one reason or another--couldn't initiate.
BTW, I also heartily agree with ktsnake. No matter what circumstances someone depledged under, we all have a basic obligation to treat other people with a certain modicum of courtesy. And when all else fails--if you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all.
