[Sjones]

Thanks to Tom Earp and ilovemyglow for your posts!

Lets add another not quite so pretty dimension that complicates things a bit...keeping my original questions in mind...

Lets say she (like your friend who lived in the house for a year but did not make grades) elected to go ahead and try another semester as an "inactive pledge" during which her grades came up to par...a powerful testiment to her commitment. During this time she remained socialy but not formally associated and otherwise did exactly as directed.

Now...when it came time to vote her in/out...the chapter was on the fence and in the end 50% voted for and 50% against so she did not quite make it.

Lets further this by asking how you would respond if you had then voted for her...would you speak to her after or support her later?

What if as an alum you thought upon seeing her again later in life that she was a sister. You exchange addresses, family information ect. and have a great time reuninting and then surprise...you find out that shes not initiated. Do you continue
to be friends?

Do you feel that supporting a non-member defiles the bond you have with initiated sisters/brothers?

Again, thanks for your reply. Have a great day!