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Originally posted by Cream
I do know of a situation where a friend's husband cheated on her with someone very close to me. I have decided that it is best to stay out of this situation. It's none of my business, my friend is blissfully ignorant, and the fling is over. If I were to open this can of worms, it could break up a family. I don't want to play any role in that. It was difficult because everytime I see this man, I want to smack him in the face for being such an idiot and almost throwing a granade in his marriage. What a jerk!
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If I were in this situation, I would've told her. If nothing else, she deserves to know to protect herself from diseases and such, although I think she deserves to know, period. I don't think she's blissfully ignorant so much as living a lie. I can't even imagine how shitty I would feel if my friend knew my guy was cheating and didn't tell me, because I think that friends owe that to each other. If I ever found out that a friend knew and didn't tell me, I'd never speak to her again.
Anyway, if the family breaks up, it's not because someone told her he was cheating -- it's because he *was* cheating. He *did* throw a grenade into his marriage -- there's no "almost" about it, and she's just walking around unaware of it and I think that one day it will explode. I'd guess that he's probably going to do it again, too. Why shouldn't he? He got away with it the first time (if that even was the first time).
Back to the original poster, I think that if you are friends with the woman's boyfriend, you should tell him, but if you're not, it's really not your problem, although your brother is being pretty shitty (and who really wants a shitty brother)? I can understand messing around with someone else's S.O. for a very brief period of time, like if their relationship is ending anyway, but not if it's an ongoing thing where she's cheating for weeks and weeks and he doesn't know about it.
I guess when it comes down to it, though, I don't understand the point of extended cheating. If you're that unsatisfied in your relationship, why in the hell are you in it?