[stardusttwin]

I have one really close male friend - since college - we never dated but he listened to my tales and yelled at me when I needed it just as I listened to him and chastised him when he was wrong. The only conflict was when I dated his frat for a minute and his loyalties were divided - we got past it - we are still friends 10 years later and this particular frat brother is long gone...

That said - we were/are really close friends prior to his marriage - in fact although I had heard all about her (the goodbad, breakup to make up drama) I didn't actually meet her until their wedding day. No drama or crossed eyes (I was expecting it) she just gave me love and I felt comfortable from day one that she understood that we are just friends. I think because I've since made an effort to get to know her she knows there is no reason to be suspicious. Now I no longer call anytime of night - but if she answers the phone I'll talk to her for a minute before she says let me get him for you.

But that's the woman I am - there are other friends that he has had to cut off all contact with....I'm not so sure how she would feel it we just met today and tried to develop a "close" relationship. I'm not so sure I would feel comfortable even pursuing a friendship with a married man outside of work or a professional (or maybe church) setting. I think I'm too conscience of sending off the wrong message. Maybe these women are misreading YOUR intentions. There are a lot of brothers out here who throw the wife and kid info up front so they can say they told you but they are very much looking for more than just "friends" (not saying you are doing this but I think this may be why some women are running and high tailing it).