[ilovemyglo]

Okay, I know I am going to get flamed for this one but, I will never ever be able to date any man that does not appear to be a caucasian. My parents would more than flip out. They would eventually accept it, but I know it would totally dissappoint my mother, my grandmother would never speak to her again and my aunts and uncles (except for one) would more than likely disown my mother and father also. In my family it just isn't allowed. I had a huge crush on a guy my sophomore year in high school (he was a senior, and african american) and totally hot!! We kissed and hung out, talked on the phone all the time and stuff, but when we talked about possibly dating I was honest with him about my mother's opinions on interracial (or intercultural) dating. (My father isn't nearly as bad as my mom- but she was raised in Memphis in the 1950's). He was understanding and we decided to just be friends.
Did I miss out? Yes. I know I did. I missed out on dating an wonderful, sexy, kind, compassionate, intelligent man. He and I have remained friends (he is married and has a baby girl now, and is getting his PhD to become a Biology professor). Do I regret it?... No. The strife it would have cause my family and my parents, and the dissappointment from them, in me, would be more than a man.
Men come and men go, even sometimes the ones you marry, but your parents and your family- you only get one of those... ever. I am attracted to men of all races, and I have dated them, but never seriously. Does that make me racist? I don't think so, I think it just means I know I can pick from many men, and I choose to pick men that I know my parents would approve of.

On a side note, I hate it that my parents are like that, and my brothers feel the same way I do, but we understand that is them, not us. One of the reasons my ex and I broke up was because he said no child of his would date outside their race. Bye bye! My kids can date who ever they want- I don't care.
And, on top of all that, I was raised in a prodominately african american neighborhood. Most of my friends from my childhood are not white. They are every color but white. So why my parents are against me dating people that aren't I will never understand.
Maybe it is because I am only 23, and I still feel the need to make my parents happy, and i don't want to dissappoint them or hurt them.
Someone else said that you can't marry someone for your parents, which is true, but you can try and choose someone that you know your parents will not utterly protest against.
I have friends that are asian and their mother would Kill them if they brought a white girl home, and one of the hottest guys I know is Jewish, and I mean this boy is sexy's definition, I would love to date him, but he will not date a girl that is not Jewish. I don't have to like it to live it.