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Contact, I think your list is more a description of acquaintances than friendship. Not to say those things might not be a byproduct, but I don't see them as the reasons behind a friendship.
I'll never have friends as close to my heart as I did in college. Yet the circumstances can never be replicated. In many ways, I wish I did have the "Steel Magnolia" or "Ya Ya Sisterhood" history with a few of the ladies here, but being the mobile society we are, it's difficult at best to keep those kind of ties strong and unencumbered. (I didn't say impossible or that new, deep friendships couldn't be made.) Too often, it's more like "The Big Chill" where you are brought together and though you still feel love, so much has changed that the reasons you were friends don't exist anymore.
For me, a new friend is someone who I have time for (and she for me) and we have a common interest. A part of her brings out ME. Not Mrs.________ or Baby Girl's/Baby Boy's Mom, or so and so's sister, but -insert maiden name-the person I was before my circumstances changed. The older you get, the harder that is to find.
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