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Originally posted by ClassyLady
If the majority of the members are women, it only makes sense to reach out to those members. It's hard to plan events and put together social groups in the hopes that it will attract others because in this process, you can lose the one that you already have.
And, a lot of the time, even if you do plan the events with men in mind, some of them still won't come because of all of the other reasons that you have listed.
I can see validity in some of the points made on this thread in regards to Black men and the Black Church. But, my question is, if you have all of these problems with the Black Church, why not just find another church, with members of any race, where these problems are not prevalent and where you feel comfortable? The problems with the Black Church should not keep away from all churches. This is not directed at anyone in particular.
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You straight Classy Lady,
Thats a good point in considering a church... race. But then again, you have to comfortable with the overal atmospere of the church. And there are men who just aren't comfortable going to church period. The problem with finding a church where 'these problems are not prevalent' is that no such church exists on earth IMHO.
However, in order for change to come in the church MEN and WOMEN have to want to change the church. Not just talk about it, BUT ACTUALLY PARTICIPATING IN CHANGING IT. That means that MEN need to start going on a more regular basis (myself included). That's a big step, but once that is taken, I believe that eventually everything else will fall in line.