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Originally posted by sugar and spice
I would agree -- call a professional and ask them what to do.
Speaking from experience here, I would avoid an intervention unless that is what the therapist tells you to do. For many people with eating disorders, an intervention will just reinforce the fact that anorexia is a way to get attention and it will actually encourage them to continue their eating disordered behavior.
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YES! As a recovering anorexic, one of the worst things that well-meaning friends would do to me was try to "help" me by staging intervention type things. Sugar and Spice is absolutely right... most people with eating disorders are well aware of the fact that they have a problem, but either feel unable to do anything about it, or are unwilling to do anything about it because it's "working" for them. I was one of the latter... I knew I had a problem, I knew what I was doing was unhealthy, but I was getting the attention I wanted, and I (thought that I) looked good. Especially since you mention she has been in treatment before, I highly doubt that she is unaware she has a problem.
To echo what others have said, I'd talk to her family and see if you can get in touch with the doctor who was treating her before. Even though they may not seem like they care all that much, it is probably more of an issue of denial for them. 'She's already been in treatment and she's better now' type thinking. Tell her fiance you are concerned about her.
*hug*
Check out the memories of my journal, Ali, under "eating disorder'. That might give you some insight into what she's feeling.