I think if this was a case of media folks will be there, the funeral will be too hard, I've already said my goodbyes, yadda yadda then Whitless' family would have know that in advance. I had an aunt to pass away recently and her only child, who is 26, was very uncomfortable at the wake. He told a few of us he was going to leave for a few. He also said, IN ADVANCE that he did not want to ride in the "family" car that the funeral home sent. He wanted to drive his own car. No body in the family had a problem with it and when I heard someone else ask why (like my aunt's siblings kept him out or something
) I politely put them in their place. Seems to me if it was like that Whit's family would be defending her.