First, I would like to preface this with I do not condone drug use...I've never tried any kind of drug, so your'e on you own with that one!
I can say this, though. My boyfriend is in the military and is being "shipped off" as well. I cannot tell you how stressed he is. Just this past weekend, we were asleep when his phone rang at 1 am...he went into work until 3 am, came home, went back at 5 am and worked until 3 pm. Then, at 9 pm he was called back to pack "sensitive items"....I went with him and we didn't get home until 2 am. Soliders were on the phones with wifes, husbands, girlfriends, boyfriends.....crying, consloing, you name it. Matt told me the only thing getting him through all this that I would remain faithful, which I truly will.
It is unfair to put your friend's girlfriend's husband through that. Period. If their marriage is that messed up, then maybe they should seek counseling. Drugs/cheating certainly won't help the situation....especially if the husband is going to be put through hell in Iraq.
Thats my .02 cents....
Blaire