[kizzie22]

Originally posted by BabyBlue91
Dear Sisterfriends,

You ladies probably know this, but someone out there might not. At one point I certainly didn't: don't ever get so desperate that you end up accepting whatever comes along. And when he does, check his azz out thoroughly!

This morning, with no intention whatsoever, I went to my state's corrections department page. I had no idea that they kept a database of every offender either imprisoned now or paroled.

Anyway, since any member of the public can access this page, I typed in the last name of my ex, chose the year of birth that I knew, race, hair color. Nothing. Oh, well. Then, thinking a little harder, I changed the hair color from black to brown. I got a hit.

Looking at the profile, I knew it was him, even without a photo. Although the crime for which he was incarcerated had nothing to do with me, the information on the page uncovered two more lies he told me -- I finally know his REAL name and his REAL date of birth (right day, right year, wrong month), stuff no decent man would lie about!

Yes, ladies, I'm learning basic information 10 years after the fact. Ten years after a lot of depression, anger, and withdrawal.

In short, have fun, but do the homework!

You are right!! Research a brutha! I was in a similar situation. I always ask to see driver liscense. You never know this day and time. Whoooooo hoooooo Soror NP got her groove back!!!