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I'll apologize in advance if this sounds bitter...my big and I had serious issues. In our chapter, the littles have pretty much complete say over who their big is. There's a TON of little-hunting, and it's really awful. It became this huge competition to see who could rack up the most littles in some cases, and the NMs are the ones who suffer. I couldn't decide between two sisters who were graduating that year and didn't have a little yet. I tried talking to some of the sisters I trusted, but I picked the ones who happen to be the worst little-hunters ever. They basically insinuated that someone's feelings would get hurt so I should pick someone else (them). There was another sister I would've picked, but the girl who ended up being her little was also in my pledge class and they were glued at the hip. Her big was really nice to me though, so I ended up picking her to avoid any problems with the original two.
Informal rush started right up again, and my big was out there hunting for her third little. I felt completely played. In addition, my big basically screwed over our whole chapter by reporting false charges to Greek Life and Nationals. Twice. For the record, there was some truth to what she said and the sisters involved were wrong, BUT the sisters who were wrong weren't the ones she turned in and she used her position on J-board to tack on extra, false charges. She did this completely out of the blue without talking to anyone on the exec board or our advisor...and to make things worse, I was coming in as the VP of Standards and the whole thing became my problem. I confronted her because she was just as guilty as everyone else and wouldn't admit it and I ended up telling her off. She caused 5 million problems the next year that I had to deal with, so I don't even talk to her anymore.
My little transferred the semester after she was initiated. She seems like a sweet girl, but I don't know her that well, and she's kind of a harsh person. I don't have any problems with her, but I also don't talk to her since I really don't know her.
The funny thing is...I really don't mind. In our chapter, people who weren't close with their bigs/littles often felt like they should be best friends and there was something wrong. I understood their frustration better than anyone and ended up with an adopted little or five. And one of the original two I couldn't choose between, we're now attached at the hip. At the time, if I would've picked her, I probably would've been mad because it takes her a long time to get close to anyone and I would've thought I got the shaft and ended up with a big who didn't like me. She became my adopted big for a while when I still felt I needed a big to be my bestest friend EVER, but then I graduated and that all died down. We're closer now than we probably would've been had I picked her, so despite my crappy experience, I wouldn't change a thing.
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