To the men, I mean no disrespect to IFC or the way it runs recruitment when I say this, but if you haven't used the NPC system of formal recruitment, and lived with it, you can't really understand why it is preferable to NPC women over the IFC system. It's almost like a mindset...the IFC mindset is that each fraternity does its own thing...NPC has a more structured manner of going at it.
I think it would be good for fraternity men to use the NPC system for a year and see how things are different. I know it won't change your minds, but you may understand better
p.s. thanks to all of you who responded
It's very frustrating and hearing that it's not just us is good!