Now that I ave read this post over again I have a different take.
No one can drive you crazy. You seem to take very little responsibility for your own emotions.
She's not even being mean to you. You just feel out of control.
And your first response is to send an email or letter? Thats not very . .. err grown up. You might as well have your friend talk to her between study Halls.
Try this. I don't want to do that. IF she doesn't take that for an answer, you say, I am not going to do that. If she persists, you ask her which part of that sentence she didn't understand.
If that doesn't end it the problem probably isn't anywhere near her, its you. You own lack of ability to determine your own affairs when put under pressure by someone else.
What will you do if you have a demanding boss? Or Bosses? OR co-workers, or other friends . . .
Its not as much a question as standing up for yourself, its a matter of being a strong enough self that people won't seek to take advantage.
People smell weakness. ITs like blood in the water. And so they feed. Stop being a bleeding heart and they will stop biting at you.
Also, if you can only go from total non-confrontation to completely ballistic, you might want to consider what that means about your coping skills.
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Originally posted by annice22
I'm going to have do something. She called me three times in a row last night. The third time I just didn't pick up the phone. I can't take it anymore. Majority of the girls in the sorority can not stand her. She is so annoying. I have to do something to stop her from calling me unless it is sorority related.
I did that whole I busy thing when she called, but that seemed to make her call more. She's stressing me out. Majority of my sister's that I talked to said that I should do something soon before she drive me anymore crazy than she's always doing.
The reason why I want to write the letter, is if I talk to her face to face I am likely to tell her how I feel in a not so nice manner. And I figure the letter would be a nicer way of saying "leave me alone".
I'll let you know what I decided to do.
Annice
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