Whoa, can we say "shallow"? $40K isn't that much, unless you're living at home with Mom and Dad...the
real world costs money and like the amazing justamom said, not everyone wants to carry debt (besides, what if he has student loans?). I think there are deeper, more serious issues at hand...maybe the fact that she's
nosy ?
I think it would be funny if he planted that ring to see what she would say.
As for me, I know that my partner has started looking at rings already, but doesn't have much to spend (and neither will I...architects and teachers don't make a lot). They know my style and what would look good on me. Plus, neither of us is trying to impress anyone with a 3 carat solitaire from Tiffany's--I have a tiny hand! So, my partner and I have communicated enough about this issue for them to know what I want, and for me to know what they can afford.
Bottom line, if it matters that much to her, it can't be the beginning of a successful marriage.