[justamom]

But i imagine that if you Fall from Grace there is little forgiveness?
Boy did you say a mouthful!
In retrospect, it all seems to be like the Indy 500. I can see how
couples were "jockeying" for social position. Women who were BRED to be the "perfect" wife. Sophie Newcomb was the place for a male to find a mate. This is the late 20s to early 30's age group. If you weren't in the League by baby number one, you most likely wouldn't be invited. If you rejected or delayed acceptance, there were no party favors for YOU! Prior to going inactive, a few brave souls were actually told, this IS word for word, "You know you are committing social suicide." However, when they opened the doors and made it easier to gain membership, it became OK to find community involvement outside
the league.It HAD to be within a select few organizations, however. Another quote, "When I no longer enjoy the people I must work with, it's time to resign." This statement, by a monied
female created an exodus which lasted for quite a while. Now, it is the SUSTAINERS which hold the clout, have the REAL parties and make the city go round... it is again-exclusive.

Or little access for outsiders? Tight group here...This is especially reflected in the Krewes. IF you are not a local blue blood, don't even THINK about an invitation to two of them.
It's funny because often, the off spring have not and will not achieve the same financial or social level as their parents. Yet, the folks pay their private school tuitions, pay for their Krewe memberships and hold their hand till the inheritance comes down the pipe. Oh, the new thing is to send you kid to out of state college. (Doesn't matter if it's a fluff college or not) It shows you don't NEED TOPS, AND back to sorority and fraternity-the kids can get into their legacy where for numerous reasons...they may have been cut from their parents' houses had they gone where people actually KNEW them! Power and connects can't save EVERY legacy...

Back to the race-after living in this place for 20+ years, the road to high society is littered with wrecks. Scandals-The Mistress of the most exclusive female Krewe turned out to be a lesbian and ran off with a woman, one political leader started another life in Atlanta all thewhile his wife and 5 kids were unaware of the double life he was leading...also had funky financials with a lot of property. Falling outs-law firms mostly but professional jealousy among the medicals, affairs-LOTS of affairs.
Still, if you have enough money behind you, you can return to the fold...just make the check out to the right fundraiser and make SURE Madame Chairman sees it!

edited for clarity