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Oh it's all so difficult. Ultimately I am torn between two decisions- let things progress naturally or deal with them head on. I'm more of head on kinda girl- I'm assertive and I prefer to deal with things rather than let a situation degenerate into something I'm not happy with. But, as my mom pointed out...this strategy has not done me well in the past with guys, so why do I think it will work now? Soooo I'm trying to go against my very nature and take things as they come. My dad told me to flat out tell this guy that we're hanging out on Valentine's Day. I don't know that I'm that brave, nor do I enjoy ordering people around in such a manner. But I think I could probably tell him that I want to hang out then, and if he questions it at all, I will use a combination of sincerity- ie tell him it's important to me, logic- its important to me and thus he should realize that its important to him also if he wants to keep his hookup, and flat out seduction- I have a plan for V Day and he knows that he enjoys my plans. I'm quite a planner, if I do say so myself. I think that this combination will work well, especially because I don't feel that I'm playing games so much as being honest. Do you think I can just ask him what we are? Can I just be like, "so by the way...I'm not pushing for anything, but what kind of relationship do you consider us to have?" This would be so much easier if he wasn't everything I've ever wanted in a guy. Have you ever been with someone and had a nagging suspicion that you might be with them simply because they really like you and it's convenient for you to like them back? Being with them is more fun than being alone, and it's sometimes hard to distinguish the degree of connection you have to a relationship. With my last guy it was like that...although I realized that I did like him a whole lot. But with this guy...I can honestly say I haven't liked anyone this much EVER, except maybe when I was in love with this boy Lyndon all through elementary school. I digress. But anyway, I'm proud of myself because the last time I saw him was Thursday...this weekend he was in the city with his family, seeing Cirque de Soleil (lucky bastard, I was working)...he got back Monday, today is Wednesday, and I haven't called. I've been busy so it helps to distract me. Ok I just realized how ridiculously long this post is and I doubt anyone has even read it so I'm gonna go. Thank you for the advice, more is always appreciated!
Corina
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