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I am basically in the same situation right now...or at least trying to get out of it. I had a crush on this guy in my dorm last year and we became friends first and then one night ended up hooking up...I was really excited and became totally attached to him because I just assumed we were on our way to coupledom. Instead, it was up and down and never really achieved a title-he always had good excuses and I always believed him. Everyone told me to just leave him be and find someone else, but I was too weak. This year things kinda started up again, this time on pretty much a hook-up basis. (aka going to his frat late at night or running into each other after parties) I confronted him and I know what you mean when you say you are scared-I told him that I didnt like the way things were and he told me "I'm not the dating type of guy" my response was "I'm not the fuck around type of girl." He vowed things would change and has kinda made more of an effort, yet still is nowhere where I want to be. You have to be careful because this guy might seem great, and when you're alone you want to believe everything he says, and you're so happy when you're together-but is the rest of it worth it?! Thats what I'm trying to figure out-I have vowed to not contact him and see what happens~if he calls for a booty call he is going to get the response that first off I'm pissed he hasnt called, and second, we're either dating or we're nothing. You'll lose a lot more by sticking by a guy you keep giving the benefit of the doubt instead of just living your life, trust me!!!! Look to friends to keep you busy, and if it's meant to be it will work out!!!! GOod luck!!!!!!