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Originally posted by AXJules
This whole discussion is seriously freaking me out (and distracting me from my 10 page research paper)
I am a firm firm believer in the idea that everything happens for a reason. I have had so many instances in my life that seemed like really weird coincidences, I can't help but think that fate was hard at work. So, I believe that The One is out there, but when I'm supposed to meet him, etc, has already been decided. So, like, I don't have to worry about breaking up w/ my current boyfriend or where my job will take me b/c some way or another, he's going to be "dropped at my feet". What I do with him once I meet him is in my hands.
With that said, OH MY GOD!!!!!!! This is so stupid to worry about but the idea that The One is simply Some Guy who's available when I want to get married freaks me out!!  Here I am going, oh it's meant to be, he's IT, when he's really just some dude that's convienient  Wow, i have a lot to think about for the rest of the day.
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Yeah - the slight (huge?) Calvinist streak in this post would certainly run counter to what some have stated in this, and other, threads - I wish I could say I agree with you, but it's quite clear that some things happen for no reason whatsoever, but hey I could just be plain wrong, that happens too.
As far as "The One" - I don't see any way in which there would be a basis for only having one true "soul mate." Instead, I think that the level of "soul mate" would be that highest level of caring that one could reach for another person, and happens so infrequently that it would appear to be 'the one' in each case. To reiterate, if you want to consider 'love' as a feeling, it would be the highest plateau within that general feeling between two people.
This would implicitly remove the possibility of there being 'only one' for each person - and I personally like that notion a lot more than relying on some unseen force to guide me to the one person meant for me. I like at least having some role in it.