[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally posted by kateshort


I don't have opinions, but I have questions. Those may help clarify.

First of all, I know that with NPC groups, if you depledge you *can* rejoin if you wait a year, but you can't go another NPC org if you were fully initiated into an NPC group. OTOH, I know that IFC/NIC groups allow guys to switch fraternities as long as the man's original initiating org writes a letter "releasing" him and freeing him up to rush and join a second IFC/NIC org. Local orgs usually are bound by their own rules (either anything-goes, or something agreed-upon by the local panhellenic, depending on the status of the org on a given campus).

Therefore, the first question is: what's the policy for NPHC sororities? Do the Divine Nine have any sort of policy against sorority members leaving or joining groups in *other* sorority conferences? If not, then you can *tactfully* ask the greek life coordinator at your school whether there's an in-school policy about members of different org conferences joining. Personally, I don't think you're owed an explanation from the campus coordinator; this sounds more like a personal problem with one girl than a campus-wide epidemic of org-switching.

Second point is this: yeah, your greek org should be for life, but then again, so should marriage. And yet, we see lots of first marriages that fail, followed by second marriages that can be very successful and last for decades.

Therefore, my second question is: shouldn't she be allowed to partake in a group that she can and is willing to contribute to for life? One where she feels fulfilled, where she feels that she can make an impact or a difference?

That said, if she's going around *badmouthing* her first org, then she should be slapped upside her pretty little head! But if she's trying to be responsible about it and is supporting her second org, then let her be. They evidently don't have a problem with her switching orgs; it'll probably be better if everyone just quiets down and sweeps it under the rug. IF you're loud about it, it might only point out problems between her and her first org, and that can make the first org look worse than it should.

If she later drops out of her NPHC org, again, she needs to have some sense drummed into her brain! But if she's found a second chance with an org that likes her and that she likes, just let her roll with it and get on with *your* lives and *your* sisterhood.

I just wanted to tell you that I think this was an excellent post. I had never thought about some of these things before.