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My father is dead. We have no relationship. Didnt have much of one when he was alive.
My mom trys my last nerve. She refuses to accept personal responsibility for her life. My sisters and I are so sick of beign the parents in the relatiosnhip. Shes 58, she needs to act her age. I only talk to her about once a month because shes just too mentally exhausting to deal with. I find her abusive. I have learned tho that I cant change her, just my reaction to her and how I let her affect me. I dont let her bother me. I was on my own at 18 and have been virtually independent long before that. I have paid my own way for everything since 16. I even split rent, bills and groceries with her in HS. She made me. So I really dont owe her anything. She made sure I got to 16. After that I was on my own. Were more like ex-roomates. I wish it was better, but thats the lot soem of us are dealt...
My sister however, is like a mother to me. We talk everyday and she emotionally raised me, so its not like I was a ferral child or anything. I am extremely grateful to her for taking on the responsibility too...
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