[carnation]

Breathesgelatin has a point about being too aggressive and offending or scaring people away. I have seen this a bunch and it happened to me. When I was cheering, this one group kept calling me to come to events and I kept declining and I guess they thought I was playing hard-to-get because of cheering. Next thing I knew, they came over and offered me a bid and I only knew a few girls in the chapter! I spent the rest of the semester hiding from them.

Definitely play it cool, like she said. Don't reek of desperation.