Rule: The Quality of your relationship is determined by how you and your partner behave when you are not feeling loving or happy.
Any fricking moron will do nice things or behave well for you when they feel all lovey dovey or happy or whatever. How boring!
A true partner will do nice things and behave well even if they had a bad day, are in a bad mood, or just woke up so irritable they hate you for a few hours lol.
You can't make your partner be that way, but you can be that way yourself . . . which will make you awesome and deserving of better treatment
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