[aopinthesky]

I think that if you have to say over and over that you are sincere, not sarcastic and you really really mean it, but you go on to refute what the original poster said and make your point once again, perhaps you are not as sincere as you think or want others to think.
No one tried said that they think NPC recruitment and membership regulations are better than IFC's, and many people agree there is room for improvement, even NPC women. However, Firehouse, these are the rules under which NPC groups are obligated to operate. Change may come but change is slow. We (NPC members) have to make the best of what we have and sometimes that includes protecting small sororities from demolition, thereby protecting all sororities at a particular campus from demolition. Because one thing the I know FOR sure is this: if the underdog sorority folds, there is going to be another underdog to take their place. There are MANY other threads where members have posted the sad stories of the death of their sorority because the women's greek system at their school did not help them, but rushed to increase chapter totals or expand just to help the larger groups. Certainly there comes a time when, if a small group ceases to grow, (which sounds like it may be the case for Carnation's friend) and cannot overcome whatever is holding them back, that the campus should make a decision to do what is best for the system as a whole, but that is not the first plan of action for NPC.
For all it's faults, I doubt that you will convince many NPC women that the willy-nilly way that IFC fraternities recruit and retain members and start new chapters, is preferable, and yes (on this I agree with you) a lot of it is because women and men respond differently to rules and regulations. You give a lot of statistical information about the openings and closings of the sororities where you went to school, but I would also be interested to know how many fraternities have started up and folded in the same time period (I bet just as many).