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Originally posted by Betarulz!
Geo's tip for breaking the slump...
This works for either sex (I've seen it) and while some what horrible and disrespectful both to the other person and yourself, it's worked for friends of mine.
What you need to do is go find the ugliest/nerdiest/least desirable member of the opposite sex (the bigger the dud the better) and hook up with them...go as far as you would normally go with someone you were really into OR until you lose all respect for yourself - whichever comes first. For the guys this means that you sleep with your slumpbuster...girls, I have no idea how far they'll go, but my friend went all the way.
Do this once (I can't stress this enough) and within two weekends you'll be out of your slump. Probably has something to do with lowering of standards, or confidence or something on why it works. Why it works for guys also plays of the fact that as soon as a guy has hooked up with someone he immediatly gets more attention from other girls. It's like he sends off signals that yes, some girl has approved him and he's safe for all of them...
Anyway try it...it couldn't hurt 
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It's true. As much as I hate to admit it, it works, although from my experience, you don't have to hook up. For New Year's, I went out, had a few confidence-boosting drinks, dressed to the nines (but before I had the drinks, of course...
) and chatted up every guy in the place without paying attention to looks, age, etc. I wasn't looking for anything more than conversation- and Mardi Gras beads - and I ended up talking to/making out with/going out with some really cool guys. That one night gave me enough confidence in myself to start talking to guys that I find cute, funny, cool, etc.
I'd like to add a clause to the slumpbuster hooking up rule...don't do it with an ex. My friend was annoyed with her slump and ended up hooking up with her ex - and doing more than they had done when they were together - because she wanted ass and he was handing it out. After she got over the initial, "I got some," euphoria, she ended up feeling, well, desperate, which isn't exactly a confidence booster. While it ended up forcing her to realize that what she wanted was a relationship AND she has to go out and put forth effort to find a guy she would want to have a relationship with, I seriously doubt the hooking up was worth the disappointment it caused. But that's also tied into the original, "Only go as far as you would normally go," concept, as was stated in the tip. Had she found someone new, she wouldn't have gone as far AND probably would've come to the same conclusion about what she wants AND would've had more confidence and zero bad feelings.