This thread couldn't have come along at a better time...
I've been upset lately because my little (4th, actually), has been very difficult to get in contact with and when I finally contacted her (tonight, after over a week of trying), she told me that she's not sure if she's ready to initiate tomorrow night. She's had a busy fall quarter what with her new job, her family, and school, and now she's working more and is afraid she's going to let the chapter down if she initiates tomorrow night and then doesn't show up much. I don't think that will be the case because a) she's a shy person, but she comes around if others show how much they want her involved), b) she had a rough fall quarter because she got a job right after Bid Day that demanded a lot of her time and it became difficult to attend chapter and new member functions, but she still made an honest effort, and c) there's much less to do in the chapter as an active member than as a new member. This girl is awesome although I admit I don't know her too well (she's a sophomore and her shyness showed when she only put two actives on her big sis list and neither of them put her on their little sis list- thus, she became my little because I've had good littles in the past and I've treated them well, they're involved, and successful with the chapter and I really wanted a last little), I want to make the best of my last year as an active with her! She's decided to think it over tonight about wanting to initiate tomorrow (only thing she'd have to do is pay for her badge and show up), and she's calling me in the morning to tell me her decision.
Anyone have any suggestions as to do with the above situation? I would love it if she decides to initiate, and although I will understand why if she doesn't, I want her to at least experience life as an initiated member and decide then if it's for her. Anyone have any words of wisdom that I can tell her when she calls me tomorrow, to convince her that she'd be making a good decision to initiate now rather than de-pledging or waiting until some of the girls in her class initiate in Spring (some of them have issues with grades and can't be initiated tomorrow)? Please email or post here if you have any suggestions!
Other than my issues right now, I have a great family! I love my big, Maria, although she graduated when I was a freshman and we aren't as close as we used to be. I don't know my grandsis or anyone above that because all of them are from Colgate University in NY and I'm at Riverside (my grandsis transferred). I just know names. My first little is the greatest- Vanessa is a dream come true! We weren't that close at first, but we've become progressively closer and I love her enough to say that she'd be a bridesmaid in my wedding (not many people I can say that for), if I ever get married. My second little, Beeta, dropped out of school and is back, but isn't actually involved with the chapter. We were close at first, but she's a wild party girl and I'm not so much anymore, so we don't hang out or talk much. My third little is adopted- Krystle's big sis transferred without ever telling her and she needed a family, so there I was! Krystle and I aren't that close, but I love her dearly and I'm glad to have her in the family line as a very classy, intelligent, and trustworthy sister! Finally... my newest little that may not be in my chapter for long
... Marlaina. Like I said before, I haven't been too close to her yet, but I plan to and I know that when I graduate, Vanessa, Krystle, Beeta, and my first grand-little sis, Jasleen, will take care of her! Jasleen is the greatest! She has so much spirit and I love her so much! For those of you who know Shark in Skirt, they're best friends and pledge sisters! Annie and Jasleen are wonderful and they will always be friends that I hold dear!
Ok, enough rambling on... I just got carried away...
