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Oooh this is a good one....
Well being that i am located here in Chicago, if you just moved here from somewhere else and took the commuter train you would assume that Black men didn't work anywhere. On my daily commute on the Metra (no matter what line) there are approximately 90% Sisters(80% whom are married or engaged) compared to Black men (20% married or engaged, can't really tell without a wedding band) and White men to whitewomen 70%-30%. Hmm whats wrong with this picture. The financial strcture in marriage has changed so much in the last few decades that we are going through a strange evolution of events. Black men on one hand are being told from birth to be providers of the home, to be the financial wizard of the family and lastly to be the spiritual leader. But on the flipside Black women are not being taught the roles they have been taught for centuries, instead they are told to follow your own path, do not be subservient to some man, and make enough money to take care of your family (this does not include husband...kids only). So here we come at a crossroads where you have Black women thinking one way about how a relationship should be and the Black Man thinking the other. Our counterparts don't seem to have this problem though....they on the other understand the team concept and understand the terms "we" and "our". In most Black marriages that I know personally, they're still talking about "my money" or "my stuff". So on the economic front we have a two signifigant incomes coming into the household but on the other hand some people still want "the good old days" where the man was the breadwinner and handled everything...
I don't think that's fair do you?
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