THis is an interesting thread. For me, I am used to the way my parents have done it. THey really do treat everything as theirs, not his or hers. They have several join acounts and some smaller individual ones. Everyone knows everything about what happens witht he others money. My mom is the one who actually pays all the bills each month (my dad is too much of a workaholic and too scatterbrained to stay on top of it) but he ppays the credit cards that are in his name only. If you ask me, ny mom always seemed to basically have veto rights over decision but really the do make all biig decisions together. They have always been partners in their marriage. No one is the "HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD" figure. They are the team co-captains and my brother and I have been the players. They have saved for thir long term goals and retirement together. They do not get into I make more so its my money so I get the final say kind of squabbles.
Oh...and they have been married 36 years. 37 in April.
