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Originally posted by navane
Ok....now, as much as I love CutiePie2000, who is absolutely brilliant  , I have to disagree with some of her advice posted in another thread. CutiePie2000 advocates not contacting local alumnae groups on your own. Instead, one should allow the national headquarters to do it for you.
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Depending on where a woman lives and how active the City Alumnae Panhellenic is, I discourage women from contacting
multiple local groups at a time. The reason for this is alumnae initiation is still a fairly uncommon occurence; women do not typically "seek out" being an alumna initiate, rather they are often mothers of collegiate members, and those mothers are extremely dedicated and involved in their daughter's chapter. The other case is that Alumnae women will think of friends that they would like to add to their alumnae circle, and nominate their names for membership accordingly.
Since a woman "seeking out" alumnae initiation is a fairly rare thing, I will tell you a story of one AI who had contacted multiple local alumnae chapters (she had contacted 3, but had only expressed an interest in 2, the 3rd was for information gathering). Anyhow, at the City Alumnae Panhellenic meeting, one of the women in one of the groups asked, "Is your sorority familiar with alumnae initiation? Jane Doe contacted us about it, and this is something that our alumnae chapter has not experienced before."
Well, as soon as she said that, women from Groups 2 and 3 also chimed in that Jane Doe had contacted them about Alumnae Initiation as well!
Don't think that this cannot happen to you (depending on the City and how active their alumnae panhellenic is), because it can happen and has happened. I know this is an extreme case, but it caused much embarrassment for Jane Doe and she was frozen out from those 3 groups (and since it came up at the Panhellenic meeting, now other groups was aware of her too).
I am pleased to say that Jane Doe did eventually find a happy home, but it might not have ended so happily.
For this very reason, I urge women to tread with caution and not contact
multiple local groups on their own. After all, sorority women in different groups can and *do* talk to each other....how embarrassing would it be to have your name come up and be found out to be "shopping around"?