Naaah, I have more faith in you than that, Justamom!
If your kids are very risk aversive or extremely socially conservative it means you have actually done a [i]bad[/b] job.
Because that usually means that the kid is operating from a core of insecurity or fear, in other words you would have killed their spirit.
Its funny, but I know some parents that were actually taken aback as their kids got older, because they had driven their kids so hard and made them so uptight that the kids didn't take any social risks at all. And their definition of risk was really broad.
I remember one friend of mine that was like that (graduated first in his class) his father begged him to go out one night with us . . . and he wouldn't go.
Kind of sad really because the parents made him that way when they were younger lol.
The most prescious gift and the prime duty of a parent is to give their child so much internal security that they have an unrealistic sense of their own immortality.
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Originally posted by justamom
When I think of some of the RISKS I took and the STUPIDITY of some of my actions, I swear to the heavens above, I'm lucky to be alive. I actually PRAY that my kids have more sense than I did.
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