Gooooo Inca! I can understand why some organizations back off of AI with people they don't know well, but like you, I always feel like they're losing out on some really great women that way. You have to be dedicated, determined, and have a strong sense of purpose to pursue alum initiation when you don't know anyone -- I know how challenging it can be!
I'm sure you'll find a home in 2003, and if there's anything I can do to help, feel free to PM me.
Good luck!