Hmmm....
Interesting.
There is clearly a double standard for men and women that is dictated by society. Most people play into it until it personally disturbs them.
For instance, my mom feels like if a young girl wants to "kick it" with my brothers, that is for their mother to worry about. She will say" Men are dawgs and will only do what you allow." So if you wanna let your daughter hoe (for lack of better word) that's your issue. However, I couldn't have calls from boys until 16. Boys couldn't come past the living rooms EVER, hell even now or my brothers/mom would hurt them.
Men and women enter into what psychologists call a silent contract which is what is happening in your situation Soror (DSTSolo01)
Here is what "supposedly" happens (it may not apply to you)
Man and woman meet. He is up front about the fact that he is not trying to get into anything serious. She lets on that she wants a man/committment. Note: At this point, the outlooks are different so people need to step. Instead, they sleep together. Silent Contract is: Man interprets this as "Cool. She knows I ain't trying to be serious and she still gave up the panties. It's on." Women's interpretation is "Now that I've given up the booty, he will eventually come around." It may not be a conscious thought, but it happens all the time.
Sometimes people get into a mutual silent contract where both parties are basically in it for the sex. Sadly though, eventually someone's emotions (usually ours) gets the better of them and they want more and the brothah is like "I need some distance."
That's when we start stalking and breaking windows, slashing tires...oops...going on a tangent. You get the picture.
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