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Originally posted by Ideal08:
We have all done wrongs to people we LOVE.
Just my .08 and I'll step down off my soap box now. 
[This message has been edited by Ideal08 (edited April 05, 2001).]
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Ideal08:
I hope you don't think I'm purposely trying to argue with you because I agree with some of what you have said. However, the main issue to me is not about just about people doing wrong to one another or to someone they love, it is about a child being produced. So you say you found out you didn't really know your boyfriend, which we all have been through something like that before, but let me ask you this (if it's not too personal) if you both would have conceived a baby, do you feel you both would have done what is best for the child? And I'm not just talking about marriage. I mean do you think that you both would've been good, active parents whether you stayed together or not? If the answer is yes, then that's all I'm saying in terms of sleeping with people. Maybe he didn't end up being the best person for you, but you would know that at least is a good person overall, as opposed to sleeping with a man who would skip out on the child or sleeping with a woman that would only use the child as leverage with the man. One may not know if a person would deceive them in a relationship, but one would or at least should know if that person has strong convictions about being a good parent to their child no matter the circumstance.
[This message has been edited by DST Love (edited April 05, 2001).]