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Originally posted by Professor:
Soror AKA_Monet,
...A teen parent does not have the same life skills nor maturity of a 30 something year old female. Additionally, we when we look at a single female parent that is a teen as opposed to others their earning ability is not as great. Realistically, if one has worked ten years then that is ten years of experience which equates to a higher earning ability. It takes money to raise a child and I say it is more difficult for a teen parent.
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Brotha Prof:
Yes, it makes a difference in terms of length in life, but does it still make it justifiably right? Moreover, the 30 something women I am talking about are women that have been in school for a majority of their 20's and find themselves at a loss for decent men. Also, the women I am talking about most of them have 2nd and 3rd college degrees and not some woman that out of high school immediately got a job and worked for 10 years. At least, that is most of my unmarried 30-something acquaintances that decided to get pregnant out of wed lock...
A teen girl may not be able to financially provide the "luxuries" to a baby compared to that of an unmarried 30-something woman's child, however, is there any greater difference in the nurturing and love that a baby needs? 'Cuz they way I hear it, a never been married 30 something 1st time pregnant woman seems to bitch and moan about how difficult it really is comparatively speaking to a teen girl that messed up her life... In fact, a teen mother appears to be more capable of finding and using her resources available to her better than a 1st time pregnant unmarried 30 something woman. Meaning, more capable of getting day care, diaper, baby food and health care subsidies. Hmmmm... I wonder why this seems to be the case?
It is just a fact, an unmarried 30 something woman more than likely will not have enough "nest egg" to handle the costs of appropriate child care? Should we, as taxpayers,
pay for an unmarried 30 something woman's decision to possibly become single parent? Knowing that her decision to do just that will inevitably take away from the financial resources of the teen girl's pregnancy? Because if I understand you correctly, an unmarried 30 something woman is suppose to be more
responsible with her decisions, right?
Maybe the 30something woman is more able to get the impregnanting man to court for child support... Either way, to me, I find it very sheisty on the part of 30 something woman.
If I decided to go out there, get pregnant with a man's child, knowing I do not have the financial resources and I still made the decision to carry the pregnancy to term; and 'cuz I made this decision without the wishes of the impregnating man, how could I justifiably get a court to MAKE him pay child support when he did actively make my choice with me? Just foul...
Oh, what webs we weave when we first try, try to deceive...
Talk to me, because I really want to understand why it is okay for a 30 year woman to get pregnant alone when it is not okay for a teen girl.