[FuzzieAlum]

There was a line on Andy Richter recently about "celebrating and ignoring all the things that make us different and exactly the same," which was a joke, but I think it is what a good chapter of any org should be doing. In order to strive for diversity, something chapters ought to be doing in lots of areas besides race, you have to see the differences between people (and I find it hard to believe a person doesn't notice another's race). But you also have to see the person for a lot more than that. No one wants to be the token anything in their chapter. (And that includes the token athlete, the token fat girl, the token out-of-state girl.) No one should have to be limited to the D9 because they're African American or the the NPC groups because they're white - but no one wants to get into a GLO just so the group can prove they're open-minded, either.

Smiley, what you're going through is something a lot of rushees go through - the perception that some sororities are looking for X and you're not it. Unfortunately this is true in some cases, whether we're talking weight, popularity, or race - but that's the exception and not the rule. Race is so much more a loaded issue, though, than, "I think they're really a glamorous sorority, and I don't know if I'm cool enough." So yeah, people are going on tangents that aren't exactly helpful to you.

I would advise you to look at the options on your campus, and go with an organization that you can believe in, and that you think believes in you as a person, not as a symbol or as a body to fill up the house with. But that's the same advice I'd give to any rushee.

The Greek system is large and diverse, and I wouldn't give up just because you find some people off-putting. After all, there are weird universities and weird companies out there, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go to college or work for a corporation. It just means you need to pick a good one.