I was asked to be the godmother of a "friend" of mines son while we were in high school...I agreed and my high school sweetheart was the child's godfather.......she had him while we were in 11th grade and I handled my duties as much as I could considering we were still in high school....I did take it seriously though. My high school sweetheart and I both joined the Air Force right after high school and we were both stationed in Hawaii....so of course I went from being able to see her son 2 or 3 times a week to 2 or 3 times a year (if that) but I sent money and gifts and called often........well 4 years later when I came back home to start college....our friendship (mine with my godson's mother) had changed...(and I wasn't with the high school sweetheart anymore)... she was still into the "wilding out" that we did in high school and I was a mature woman ready to begin to accomplish my life's dreams (becoming a doctor, becoming a Delta
). We were on totally different pages....I tried to become a part of his life again but I couldn't stand the way she was raising him...she cussed at him, hit him like he was a grown man...and basically wanted him to be a little thug....so maybe I was wrong but I stepped back from the situation.....I see him every now and then...I call and chat and if she really needs something she'll call me....I know it should be about the child but I know if something was to happen to her, her mother, sister, cousins, etc would never let me raise him anyway...if I had known then what I know now about the "TRUE" meaning of being a godparent then I wouldn't have accepted the invitation back then.....I am thankful I had my daughter when I was old enough to understand and appreciate the role of a god parent...my daughter has an excellent godmother and if I ever get the opportunity again it will be a decsion that I take to God first before I agree.....