If the women in the chapter extended a bid to membership to this young woman they must have felt she was fit for membership. As you have stated most people are just itching to be initiated so there must be a pretty big issue. You may never know what it is. It could be financial as previously mentioned she might just be fearful. Do not let the fact that she is taking initiation very seriously make you hold negative feelings for this young woman. I wish all new members would think membership through like this. Repeating the new member period will do nothing but strengthen her knowledge and hopefully reinforce her desire to become an active member in your organization. It would be of great importance to have a conversation with this young woman possibly with your new member chairman, her big sister etc... and let her know that the spring new member class is starting with a clean slate and it is very important that she allow those women to form their own ideas about the organization rather than sharing her feelings without making her feel that what she has requested is wrong in any way.
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