I think the difference in the situations you all have described and what babyjsc describing is the female didn't ASK you for help. I know it's hard to let your friend suffer at the hands of someone who she thinks loves her, but sometimes you have to monitor from a distance, and definetly keep talking until she asks for help.
It's like that scene in What's Love Got to do With It. We all saw that Tina was getting her tail kicked and people around her saw it as well but it wasn't until she took a look in the mirror at what he had done to her, at what she looked like, and at what other people were seeing that she found the courage to leave. Unfortunately, sometimes this never happens and the woman dies. I think it's important that we all know what to look for and learn to recognize subtle cries for help.
As AKA_Monet stated, counseling is VERY important, not just because she's interested in a sorority, but for her own well being. Abuse is a hard thing to get through...feelings of worthlessness, self-hate, suicidal thoughts...all of that needs to be worked out and replaced with self love and the knowledge that you deserve better, you did nothing to deserve that treatment, and no man that TRULY loves you would ever abuse you, mentally, physically, emotionally or sexually.
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