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Originally posted by 1savvydiva
I was feeling good until he called and just went off on him and started crying, and I hate that I let him see me/hear me like that. I wish I could control my emotions a little bit better when it came to him. I can hold my tongue for everything else...but I just poured my heart out there for him to just say " OH". I really wish I could take that back!
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You can't take it back, but you can learn from it. Let me tell you. I would do the SAME thing. Tell the ex something and expect this grand reaction to it and my feelings. And get NOTHING. Then end up crying for HOURS. I'm not kidding, straight hours. But I could only be mad at myself, because I ALLOWED him close enough to me to hurt me. After that, when he would call, I wouldn't answer the phone. I had to wait until I could handle having a conversation with him without talking about the past and his new life and me missing him and me being lonely and all the other BS that would get me more hurt feelings.
So lose the expectations that you have of him. LOSE THEM. When he calls, you now know that you can't handle talking to him. LEARN THE LESSON NOW, and you won't keep going thru this same test. Don't take his calls. You have caller ID? When you see his number come up, JUST DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE. Think of these questions: What do you have to talk about? What do you want out of talking to him? How will you feel if you talk to him? Will anything positive come from the conversation? If your answers are that it will make you feel better, don't answer the phone. YOU make YOU feel better. If your answer is that you want to see if he is sorry and wants you back, WHO CARES?? Are you accepting him and his isht back? If not, DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE. After a while, you will be used to not talking to him, and it won't even phase you if he calls or not.