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Originally posted by aurora_borealis
I think I lucked out...my potential future husband isn't Greek, but he went to a service academy and now has Top Secret military clearance. I don't ask him about parts of work, he doesn't ask about ritual.
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Same here. My father was in the army back in the '60s. He was an enlisted soldier working in a communications branch. Basically, he says he worked in coding/decoding. I know he's done other stuff, but he can't tell me. Because he needed Top Secret clearance, the Army sent out agents to his hometown to interview his neighbors, friends, and family. I presume they did that to ask about his interests, personality, beliefs etc. He did get top secret clearance and he had to make some sort of declaration of loyalty. It bothered my aunt to no end that he wouldn't tell her. "But I'm your sister!" she'd protest. All he can tell me was that he was stationed in Arizona. He's not in the army anymore, and he has never been notifed if his work has been made declassified. As is such, he won't tell. To this day, I can ask him "Hey, what was it you said were doing out in Arizona?" He'll just smile and say "I can't tell you that."
It's all a matter of respect and understanding. One of the things my boyfriend likes about me most is that he can trust me. As someone else pointed out, it's the same sense of committment to a GLO that also works in the favor of a spouse or partner.
.....Kelly