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Whether you take me seriously is up to you. You asked for advice. My advice is to let go. My observation is that you have control issues.
You're painting a pretty weak picture of this group you founded. This is what I hear you saying…
This group cannot be trusted to select new members that reflect the ideals of the organization.
This group will take the wrong path, ultimately rejecting the original ideals of the fraternity.
This group is made up of people the other groups consider undesirable.
If all this is true, then you don’t have anything to worry about because the group will certainly be dead very soon. But who knows? Maybe they’ll surprise you and actually thrive even after you’ve let go.
Evolution is a natural process. Preparing your undergraduates to handle change and make the right decision long after you’re gone – that is the wise choice. Demanding that everyone adhere to your original ideas lest you take your ball and go home – that is foolish and shortsighted, and ultimately ineffective.
The grand old fraternities and sororities succeeded beyond the first few decades in part because the founders recognized that new members, not founders, were the lifeblood of the organization. So like all good parents they laid the best foundation they could, and then they let go.
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