[FuzzieAlum]

I think once one makes a promise, one ought to keep it until death. I would never claim that I am so perfect as to always manage to do that myself, of course. But I believe oaths and promises are very, very important. If I knew one of my sisters had revealed our ritual to anyone, and I do mean anyone except someone with a gun to her head, I would want her membership revoked.

If my hypothetical husband can't take one oath I made seriously, I wouldn't trust him to keep oaths himself - such as faithfulness, for example. That's not the sort of husband I want.

Edited to add: There may be times in one's life where one decides to violate a vow. If you promise not to tell your best friend has anorexia ... if you go to initiation and find out part of ritual is killing a puppy... In these cases, breaking an oath is done for moral reasons, not for convenience in explaining why you're upset or to pacify a whiny husband. But there are still consequences; your best friend is upset you betrayed her, or your sorority kicks you out. If you're going to back down on your word, you have to be prepared to accept the consequences, even if they're as mild as people saying you're wrong on a chat board!