I also think that platonic relationships are possible, but it sounds like he may have had some feelings for you because he hid the whole thing.
To be honest, that would have been a very awkward situation --- knowing that you once had feelings for him, but "pushed them aside" how would you have fit into the equation? His wife is now his best female friend. You still could have been friends, but your friendship would have altered. I honestly don't feel that he could have continued to send you a Valentine's Day card, etc, without compromising his relationship with his new wife. So, unfortunatley, he had to make a choice (as hurtful as it is).
Yes, he should have told you, then it all could have been in the open and your feelings would have been spared. That's what a true friend usually does, but giving him the benefit of the doubt --- maybe he just didn't know how to handle it ( & that's still not a good excuse). Who knows, perhaps you and she could have been friends. One of my closest platonic male friends is now closer to my husband than to me, but males bond differently. Also, it was tough in the beginning because everyone knew he had a "crush" on me in the past. But after we double dated with him and his girlfriend, it was fine.
[This message has been edited by tickledpink (edited October 18, 2000).]
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