Hello men, of distinguished brotherhood and all sisters in the places, I have arrived once again in your neck of Greek chat and I wanted to comment on the topic at hand.
First to answer the post: I think men and women can be good friends/best friends, at one point or another something is lurking in the minds of one or both, but when you find out it may not be what the other wants then you either choose not be friends anymore or since you have past the hurdle of "I want him, does he want me" or vice versa then your friendship starts to blossom and become more real, and even deeper. I feel that if you are such good friends then you both should not be afraid to speak on the feelings that may or may not be there. Personally, I would have to say that, the man in question was wrong for not at least telling you what's up in his life, after 15 years, I (me as the females friend) would be like so am I in the wedding and when can I meet her. Obviously he did not want to start no mess in the new relationship he has but he should have made a better judgement on what to do. I think you too were really close, and maybe too close for his new love to handle, still all in all he made bad judgment on how to deal with it.
Now professor, I think women throw out the husband bit just so other people will know she has a man ... I personally, would make the introduction, this is husband, XXX, and then from then on refer to him by his name(XXX). Now if we are close I should not have to make the introduction but one time, if I say let me check with XXX first because he may have something already planned, and your next comment is who is XXX, that means you did not care when I introduced him the first time. I am not great with names, but I really hate that excuse. If you care, you would pull out one of the those memory techniques from grade school and log names, and places you met people.
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